Sex Talks

I�m writing this from a Virgin America flight from LAX to EWR � home for the holidays. John Legend is sitting 15 rows in front of me, which has nothing to do with this post but felt worth mentioning. Also I�m not a fan of the new safety video � unpopular an opinion as that may be. I miss the bull who�s totally over it about the seat belts. And as I fly � artisan cheese plate on tray � I can�t help but think about how totally weird it is to go home to your old home for the holidays, especially when you've started to bring your new home along. I think that in a small and very strange way, I feel like a traitor. This trip marks my fourth time traveling home from Christmas since I moved to Los Angeles and my fourth time bringing R along for the trip. He was almost instantly a part of the family � which may be on account of his winning personality, but more likely has to do with our being snowed in at my parent�s house for four days the very first time he visited (and n...

There's an article that people have been hate-posting on the Facebook this past week about that tired, old old issue of how some ladies intimidate men with their lack of lady-ness. You can find that article here . But before you start reading it, take note of the website from which it is posted: eHAdvice - a blog from the fine folks at eHarmony. I have nothing against eHarmony (other than their annoying commercials), but their business model isn't exactly predicated on the grey areas of real life. They like rules...created by questionnaires that you can answer in 15 minutes or less. That said, the source doesn't change the message, and the message is one I'm really tired of hearing: Men are not intimidated by your success, ladies. They love that you are successful. In fact, they admire your ambition and accomplishments. What they don�t like is the masculine energy you literally bring to the dinner table. What men want most, what they ask me for when I find them mat...

That Sunday Styles article about Instagram gave me a stomach ache. From the minute I read the title - The Agony of Instagram - I knew what the entire piece was about, and my gut reaction was, don't read it . Don't further uncover what you already know; Instagram is making you crazy. Fine, maybe not crazy but definitely a more image-oriented, people-pleasing, showy version of yourself. If I had to honestly assess the motivation behind any given image I 'gram it would be showing off. Is that so terrible? No. Everyone does it, and I have plenty to be proud of. But is it necessarily good? I don't know. That same gut that said don't read the article seems to be saying no . I went through the same thought process around Facebook a few weeks ago. My friend Ally bravely cancelled her account almost a year ago and feels liberated by the disconnect from every online move the friends (and random acquaintances you feel too guilty not accepting as friends) in her life make. ...

This isn't the first article I've ever read about a celebrity being airbrushed into a unrealistic, unachievable alien. It's not even the first time I've read about Jennifer Lawrence - a refreshing example of a more normal-sized human - being subjected to the treatment. I write about celebrity fashion for a (current) living. I'm well aware of the drill. But for some reason this specific article made me angrier than the others. Maybe that's because Jennifer Lawrence has specifically asked magazines to stop doing this to her? Or because she's trying so hard to project a healthy body image to the young girls who worship her as Katniss and the old girls who worship her as anything character she plays including herself? Or it could be that I actually think she genuinely looks better before all the photoshopping! I think the real reason I'm so annoyed is because I don't get it. Truly. Why do the magazines do this? Are they in some kind of cahoots with the ...

I've been torn about writing this post because I didn't for a minute want to make it seem as though I'm not enjoying the planning of my upcoming wedding, but the more I stressed I got about putting my thoughts down on the blog, the more I realized that those fears were precisely the point of the post (sorry. I'm now addicted to alliteration on account of my fashion freelance writing. See.).  Consider this an over share in the name of none-of-the-wedding-blogs-remotely-address-this-stuff. Wedding planning reveals your weaknesses. There, I said it. It's fun, exciting, special, and a once-in-a-life experience, but it's also a really good way to figure out what you struggle with on a larger scale. Are you indecisive? Disorganized? Too close to your family? Too distant? Are you too selfish? Too self less ? Too cheap? Too spendy? And while you're at it, what's your stance on religion and could you quickly make an A and B list of the most important people in y...

I love a holiday gift guide as much as the next person looking for a way to spend 15 minutes pretending they're not just procrastinating online, but I find that most if not all feature things no one needs at prices most people can't afford. And so I decided that I should spend 30 minutes pretending I'm not procrastinating online by writing a gift guide of my own. I promise that each and every item is something someone needs as a price most of us 20 and 30-nothings can afford. Enjoy! For The Girls (sisters, friends, moms) - The Drug Store Beauty Box You have a list of products that you swear by so why not give the gift of knowledge to some people whose hair, skin, nails and face you love! Place it all in one of those cute pre-wrapped boxes they sell at Paper Source, and you're golden. Here's my list: Dove Style & Care Hair Spray - quite literally the best smelling and working device to hold your hair in place currently on the market.  Essie Nail polish in Jazz ...

This morning I spent 25 minutes and two really nice shirts attempting to eat a grapefruit, hence this post. This is not a means to develop New Years Resolutions in one plus months time or some kind of whoa-is-me post, it's simply a collection of facts...that I'd love if the 30-year-olds among you could agree with in comments. 10. Eat a grapefruit - Are you supposed to have one of those spoons with the teeth on the edge to make this happen without spraying juice all over the place? I literally have no idea. I've seen people do it many times before and yet my attempts ended in approximately two scoops of grapefruit in my mouth and three cups of grapefruit juice on my kitchen floor. I considered YouTubing it but that just felt too lame to bare, even along in my apartment wearing my work slippers. 9. Blow dry my hair - I can make my hair dry with the use of a blow dryer but I can't "blow out" my hair, as the cool girls say. This is partly because I had curly hai...

Another month...another list of lessons learned from the brave women who bare their souls through stories at my monthly show. For more information on Sunday Night Sex Talks check out our website . There you'll find info on the January 5th shows in Los Angeles and - for the first time ever - New York City! For now here is another set of discrete gatherings from the most recent event featuring Jillian Lauren , Kristin Newman , Tiffany Barrett , and Pam Noles . Things Learned During the December 1st Sunday Night Sex Talks Theme: Baby, It Was Cold Outside There are so many puns you can make if you're dating a man named Juan, but that list expands exponentially when you're dating a half dozen men named Juan.  The whole, "make the man scared so he'll seek comfort from me," thing is a common move among women. Sometimes it works, and sometimes the guy ends up vomiting from all the vodka he was secretly drinking to get through his fear! Using religion to scare childr...