Sex Talks

The other night R and I had oysters, artisan grilled cheeses and red wine with our friend Alison because it was Wednesday and we know how to live (note: Alison actually had a dirty martini because she is a total boss. HI ALISON! ) . At one point R hijacked our conversation about Allison's incredible new-ish boyfriend and turned things into an sociology class, but we went along with it because he is very cute. R's question: what percentage of couples do you think fall into that "opposites attract" category? Or, rather, do you think more couples are similar or different people? I instantly said, "different," because I like to be the first person to answer questions in class. R said, "interesting," and then rubbed his winter-months beard a little bit because, apparently, he was taking this whole fake sociology class as seriously as I was...which is when it dawned on me that R and I are more similar than we are different...I think? Do I fail the class ...

I've been avoiding writing this post all day because I don't know what to say, and not knowing what to say makes me crazy uncomfortable. Someone once told me that the best thing to do in times of fuzziness is start with statements of truth. Write what do you know to be absolute fact. Don't worry about the grey area.  Ok. I have some friends going through deeply difficult times in their life. These friends are facing challenges of the heart, and their challenges scare me. I don't have answers for these friends, and that's hard for me. I wonder if I'll face their same questions some day, and I wonder if I'll have answers.   No future is totally known. No relationship is totally infallible. We cannot predict the future. Every relationship is a leap of faith.  Shit happens. Bad shit. Scary shit. Super sad shit. And we have to find a way to move forward. The support of friends is one piece of what helps us more forward. I can be that source of support. Right now ...

On February 7th I will be 30 and 1/2 years old, and I'm proud to say I'll be marking that milestone half birthday just a little bit wiser. Here is the impressive list of things I've mastered since turning the big 3-0. 1. How to take care of my skin I've had a face for 30 years, and yet I've only learned how to properly wash, tone, exfoliate and moisturize is within the past six months. For that I'd like to thank two Janna's (Jana at Ruth's Skincare on Melrose and Janna of My Beauty Binge ) and the three samples per visit policy at Sephora. 2. How to get from Pacific Palisades to Echo Park in 35 minutes or less. One canyon road, the PCH, three freeways and a left on Sunset. Boom. 3. What work-out will make my whole body hurt the most (but somehow feel the best, maybe?) The answer is Pilates, specifically reformer machine Pilates. I'm doing a one month exclusive package at Touch on Robertson , and it's killing me. That means it's working, rig...

As mentioned, R and I have decided to engage in some marriage planning to go along with our wedding planning. The former is way more boring, overwhelming and void of fashion-related choices than the latter, but I'm playing along. Step one of one bagillion has been the question of whether or not to start a relationship with a business manager/business management firm. What does a business manager do? In three obvious words: manage your business. But what is your business when you don't have an actual business (unless we're counting the business of writing sample television pilots for free as the world's most time-consuming resume crafting process)? Everything . Literally everything in your life that has to do with money: bills, loans, investments, taxes, insurances, and so many other words that I'm not familiar with because I have absolutely no knowledge when it comes to business. Ready to set up an LLC for your writing career? Gearing up to buy a house? Prospect o...

You guys. I'm so confused by this Lena Dunham/Vogue cover story/Jezebel/everyone on Facebook situation. Here's what I believe went down: Vogue photoshopped their pix of Lena to make her look "better" than her natural self (skinner neck, skinnier waist, covered-up boobs, etc.) Jezebel offered 10K for the original shots , got them, and published them with disappointed/angry commentary ( "Lena Dunham and her fans, ourselves included, love her just the way she is. Vogue's opinion, of course, is another matter." and "Why bother? These slight tweaks, the "you look great, but you'd look just a little more great if..." stuff is insidious." Lena reacted like this: "10k? Give it to charity then just order HBO...Some s--t is just too ridiculous to engage. Let's use our energy wisely, 2014." And then dozens of people on Facebook/Twitter/etc. were like - God Jezebel! Calm down! Jezebel is the worst! Why is Jezebel shaming Lena ...

No idea who Zig Ziglar is, but this was too perfect not to post Sometimes it's easy to forget among the invitation designing, table arranging and internal debating of how many Janet Jackson songs you can get away with playing at your reception (3?? What if it's a Michael/Janet duet??) that you're not just getting a wedding at the end of these 13 months of painstaking planning, you're getting a marriage. The former lasts a day, most of which you're either sitting in a make-up chair or jumping up and down on a dance floor for. The latter lasts a lifetime (god willing), most of which you are neither getting pampered nor dancing drunk. And yet I have spent countless hours selecting hand-written fonts for the vintage mirrors upon which we will write our wedding dinner menus and zero hours determining how we will set up things like, say, our financial future.  That is until last Friday when R made me interview a potential business manager.  In fairness, the whole having a...

This is going to be short because I'm A. mortified by my complete and utter defeat over the powers of the wedding devil on my shoulder and B. have to finish the rest of my writing work so I can fit in my Jillian Michael's DVD before R gets home to we head to a Pilates class. Yes, that's where we're at. I'm four months out from my wedding, two months out from my first dress fitting, and hell bent on getting into to best shape of my life. For the past nine + months of my engagement I have sworn to myself that I wouldn't go crazy about losing weight. Aside from annual check-ups at the doctor, I don't even weigh myself. I'm in fine shape right now, my wedding dress was ordered in my current, perfectly fine size, and if I lose too much weight I'll have to pay more for alterations, and there's nothing I want to do less than pay more money for any element of this wildly costly process. Nothing except, apparently, have the world's most perfect weddin...

What a way to ring in the New Year... We packed the house at The Gallery at LPR for the east coast #SNSTalks kick-off and had an all-around killer show. New Yorker's, you'll be pleased to know that we're moving ahead with monthly shows hosted by the incredible Michelle Buteau when I'm not in town. West Coast girls, don't worry. My hero Margot Leitman held down the fort last night for what I hear was an awesome first show of the year, and we're continuing with our first Sunday of every month run. Now, for the inaugural list of lessons learned from the ladies of New York City: Michelle Buteau , Caitlin Brodnick , Giulia Rozzi , Ophira Eisenberg , and Cindy Chupack. 1. Consider the quality of a man you met at a Sabrett Hot Dog cart on the Lower East Side at 2AM. 2. Consider even more carefully the quality of a man who opens with the line, "Wow, you must really want a hot dog." 3. Gum + blow job + NYC taxi cab = disaster 4. Late night bodega buffet Chin...

Exactly one year ago I wrote an article for Thought Catalog called 20 Resolutions for 20-Somethings . Today on account of my age bracket increase I have to add ten more ideas to the list and make everything sound more adult. #Woeis30, but here's hoping this list of suggested to-do's will help us all fake it into adulthood a bit more this coming year. 1. If you aspire to be married but not to the person you're currently dating, break up. 2. Record conversations with your grandparents on a smart phone, tablet, camcorder, what have you and back them up onto a memory card. The technology is easier than ever, and the memories are just as priceless as always. 3. Reduce the number of selfies you're posting to Instgram/Facebook/Twitter/ by 50%. If you're still at 2 or more selfies per day, de-activate your account. 4. Reduce the number of times you check Facebook/Instagram/Twitter/etc. per day by 50%. If you're still at 10 or more times per day, seek professional help. ...