Sorry. I Tried But I Can't Stay Silent on This Lena Dunham/Jezebel/Vogue Photos Issue

You guys. I'm so confused by this Lena Dunham/Vogue cover story/Jezebel/everyone on Facebook situation.

Here's what I believe went down:

• Vogue photoshopped their pix of Lena to make her look "better" than her natural self (skinner neck, skinnier waist, covered-up boobs, etc.)

• Jezebel offered 10K for the original shots, got them, and published them with disappointed/angry commentary ("Lena Dunham and her fans, ourselves included, love her just the way she is. Vogue's opinion, of course, is another matter." and "Why bother? These slight tweaks, the "you look great, but you'd look just a little more great if..." stuff is insidious."

• Lena reacted like this: "10k? Give it to charity then just order HBO...Some s--t is just too ridiculous to engage. Let's use our energy wisely, 2014."

• And then dozens of people on Facebook/Twitter/etc. were like - God Jezebel! Calm down! Jezebel is the worst! Why is Jezebel shaming Lena Dunham?? Get over it everyone! Why are we still talking about this stupid issue?? The pictures aren't even that different!

So to recap: Vogue publishes an unrealistic portrait of a real woman. Jezebel defends that real person. And then both the person and the people of the Internet (MANY of them women) are upset with Jezebel?

Again: Vogue offends Lena Dunham and women (because changing a woman's body is offensive. We can all agree on that, right? Pleasepleaseplease say yes). Jezebel defends Lena Dunham (because saying they would prefer to see her real body is supportive. I'm not even asking if you agree with that because it's a cold, hard fact). Lena Dunham does not defend herself (because saying, "let's focus on something else" is deeming the situation OK) and much of the Internet agrees with her on that stance (but not all, thank you Slate, forever and ever).

Why?

From what I'm reading it's for three reasons:

1. The photoshopping wasn't that severe aka Jezebel is making too big a deal out of it. 
2. This is how being a celebrity in magazines works, so Jezebel should shut up already.
3. Jezebel is shaming Lena by pointing out her real body. 

Okay, but:

1a. How much does a woman's body have to be changed for it to be wrong?
2a. Just because it's common practice means we're going to roll over as a society?
3a. That's not shaming, that's supporting. Shaming is changing a woman's body to that it looks more like society's unrealistic standards of beauty.

I'm not saying we need to make a national case out of every re-touched image of a celebrity. I agree with Lena, there are equally important topics to focus on. But when it is brought it, why are we abandoning the fight and supporting the bully? And, more importantly, how does the actual victim - a woman whose comfortable body image well-reported and supported - not support her natural self??

This is embarrassing you guys. And I don't care if you think I'm making a mountain out of a molehill here, just like Jezebel. That's what needs to happen for this to change.

And if you're sitting there thinking, why does this need to change? then you're part of the problem.